What Every New Girl Needs - Make sure new women feel welcome!

We’ve moved twice within the past three years. Not just down the road, but 10 hours west and 2 states away. And then 8 hours back east.

We’ve had the opportunity not just to visit several churches, but to try to get plugged in once we’ve found our new church homes.

Back when we moved to Kentucky one of the pastor’s wives invited me to my first event at the much bigger, main campus. I didn’t even know where to park or which door to enter. I would have never gone if she hadn’t invited me.

It’s been about 3 months since I almost turned the car around and abandoned the idea of attending my first Women’s Ministry event alone.

Ya’all even as much as I love Women’s Ministry, it was very hard for me to go alone to the first event at our new church home. I had no idea if I would know anyone. Not a single woman from our Sunday School class was in attendance. Every single face was new.

Having freshly walked in the shoes of the “new girl” (again), I thought I’d share a few things I’ve learned.

There are 3 things every “new girl” needs:

1. Invitation – It is highly unlikely that she’s going to come to an event on her own. A personal invitation provides companionship and accountability. Consider inviting her to:

  • A Women’s Ministry event
  • Bible study
  • Breakfast/coffee/lunch
  • Your Sunday School class/Small Group

2. Introduction – Connect her with other women in a similar season of life or with similar aged-children. Please do not introduce her to the whole group – she may never come back! Make these introductions 1-on-1. Be purposeful. Don’t abandon her either. Stay and help keep the conversation going.

The Three Things Every New Girl Needs via Women's Ministry Toolbox

3. Intentional Follow-up – Don’t leave her hanging. Call and check in with her. Ask her how she enjoyed the event. Invite her to something else. Find out what she needs/is looking for and help her to find it.

Admittedly, there is a fine line between pushy and welcoming.

  • You don’t need to call repeatedly, but if she leaves you a message, call her back. Please.
  • You don’t need to issue an invitation to every church or Women’s Ministry event, but do hold her hand through a couple until she gets to know a few other folks.

It’s your turn to share! What do you do to make sure new women at your events feel welcome?

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