Messy Beautiful Ministry - Encouragement for Women's Ministry leaders.

I felt like a fraud.

A big, fat fraud.

God had recently promoted me from the MOPS Coordinator to the position of Women’s Ministry Director.

I wanted the women in our church to see me as a woman of prayer, relentlessly pursuing God, seeking His will and direction for our events and activities.

I was a hard worker and proud of it.

Truth was I was barely holding it together.

I was putting on a big smile each time I walked through the church doors.

Much like the Wizard of Oz, it was all a big show.

Pull back the curtain and you would have seen that my marriage was in big trouble.

God had brought me to the place where I had to come face to face with the fact that I had put my children and my ministry before my marriage.

I was so busy serving and doing, and honestly loving it, that I had not realized that I was neglecting my husband and our marriage.

When the opportunity came up recently for me to review Darlene Schacht’s (the Time Warp-Wife) new book, Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages, I knew I had to do it.

If you are a married woman serving in Women’s Ministry (as most of us are) you have a responsibility to protect and preserve your marriage.

Satan would love nothing more than to bring your marriage and your ministry down.


Even if your marriage is not currently under attack, I urge you to put on your armor and stand ready to fight.

Safeguard your marriage. Check in regularly with your spouse to make sure serving hasn’t overtaken your role as wife.

And if you’re in a difficult place, find a trusted (female) mentor to pray for you. I found it to be tremendously helpful to be honest and real with one trusted woman.

No matter the current state of your marriage, I encourage you to pick up a copy of Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages. As you read it ask God to open your eyes to areas where you need to step it up.


I would love to have you join me in praying for our fellow leaders who are struggling. Would you consider leaving a prayer for their marriage in the comments section below?

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